Why You Push People Away — Emotional Rewiring, Ep 2

12 May

When closeness feels like danger (even when it’s not)

You’re not “too much.” You’re not broken.
But you might be running on a nervous system that’s still bracing for a past that isn’t happening anymore.

In this episode, we unpack how survival strategies from childhood become your adult personality—and why the people who love you sometimes feel like the scariest ones to trust.

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Key Takeaways

What looks like avoidance, shutdown, or overthinking is often just unhealed survival wiring.
If chaos was normal in childhood, calm now feels unfamiliar—even unsafe.
You learned patterns like people-pleasing, overachieving, or emotional detachment to survive, not because you’re flawed.
Intimacy isn’t just closeness—it’s being seen. And if that wasn’t safe back then, it’s still triggering now.

Real Talk: You’re Not Pushing Them Away on Purpose

You might find yourself craving connection and pulling away the second it gets real.

Not because you don’t care.
Because your nervous system is whispering, “Danger.”

If asking for help makes you panic…
If safe people feel “boring”…
If calm makes you itch with suspicion…
That’s not dysfunction. That’s conditioning.

But here’s the truth:
You don’t need to keep surviving.
You get to start living.