Why you keep dating the same person… just with a different face
Why you keep dating the same person… just with a different face
Ever catch yourself saying, "How do I always end up here?"
Same arguments. Same heartbreak. Just a new name.
You’re not cursed. You’re conditioned.
Before you even knew what love was, your body was soaking up every emotional cue—who got love, who gave it, and what you had to do to feel safe. Today, we're unpacking how your early blueprint still runs the show… and how to finally rewrite it.
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Key Takeaways
Your opposite-sex parent often becomes the unconscious template for who you’re attracted to.
Your same-sex parent tends to shape how you treat yourself.
We don’t just inherit eye colour—we inherit emotional DNA.
Your nervous system isn’t chasing what’s good for you—it’s chasing what’s familiar.When you grow up in an environment where love was inconsistent, your brain wires “on edge” as normal. So when someone shows up calm, honest, and available—it doesn’t feel right.
Real Talk: Your 'Type' Might Be Trauma
If love growing up was inconsistent, conditional, or chaotic…
Then peace might feel boring.
Kindness might feel suspicious.
And calm might feel like something’s missing.
That’s not your gut talking—it’s your wiring.
You’re not choosing pain on purpose. You’re repeating a pattern your body learned before you had words for it.
But the good news?
Patterns can be rewired.
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Continue the Emotional Rewiring Series
Next up:
👉 Ep 2 – Why You Push People Away
Previously: (You’re at the start—good place to be.)
What’s one belief about love or self-worth you’re starting to unlearn?
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