Mindset Tools For People Who Were Raised As The Problem
No fluff, no pretty affirmations. Just digital tools that help you see the system you grew up in, name the rules that still run you, and start making different choices on purpose.
Everything here is built for people who were trained to carry the blame, manage everyone else’s moods and doubt their own reality. These aren’t “feel better” journals. They’re maps, guides and prompts that help you see what actually happened and what it’s still costing you now.
Start here (free)
If you’re new to my work, start with the free tools.
They give you language for what you’ve already lived, without asking you to blow up your whole life overnight.
System maps & deep work
These are the tools for when you’re ready to stop arguing with yourself and actually put the system on paper.
They’re structured, step-by-step and designed to be worked through slowly.
A 120+ page workbook that helps you map the family system that trained you to be the problem. You’ll track power, unwritten rules and roles, see how the 10 Scapegoat Rules still run your life, and write your own “I was never the problem” brief you can come back to when doubt spikes.
For people who are allergic to motivational posters but still want change. This guide walks through what a realistic, systems-aware “growth mindset” looks like when you’ve grown up in chaos, guilt and emotional manipulation.
For your walls, not your self-worth (wall art)
These digital wall prints are here for one reason only: to remind you you’re not crazy and you’re not the problem. They’re the only “quotes” you’ll see from me.
Print them, frame them, put them where you’re most likely to forget your own progress.
How these tools are meant to be used
All products in this shop are digital downloads. Most people use them alongside therapy, coaching or their own journalling. They’re here to give you structure, language and evidence, not to replace professional support or tell you to “just think positive”.
You’re free to move at your own pace, put them down when it gets heavy and come back when your body’s ready.
The core rules many scapegoats were raised on. See how each rule protected the family system, not you, and notice where they still shape your reactions today.