Scapegoat System Map Workbook

$29.00 $39.00

A 120+ page workbook that helps you map the family system that trained you to be “the problem”, so you can stop arguing with your own reality and start making decisions that actually protect you.

You weren’t the problem. You were raised inside a system.

The Scapegoat System Map Workbook is a step-by-step process for people who grew up carrying the blame. It helps you map the system that trained you, see how the 10 Scapegoat Rules still run your life, and write your own “I was never the problem” brief you can come back to when doubt spikes. Scapegoat-System-Map-Workbook-H…

Introductory price: $29 AUD
You’ll receive all future digital updates, including the fillable version, at no extra cost.

What this workbook helps you do

See your childhood as a system, not a pile of “incidents”
Name who held power, who carried blame, and who kept the image intact Scapegoat-System-Map-Workbook-H…
Trace how the 10 Scapegoat Rules ran your life then and how they still show up now
Identify your top three “hooks” – the rules your nervous system still obeys on autopilot
Run small experiments to test what actually happens when you stop obeying those rules
Write a clear “I was never the problem” brief you can use when guilt and confusion flare up

You’re not doing this to fix yourself. You’re doing it so you can see the system clearly enough to stop blaming yourself for surviving it.

What’s inside

Over 120 pages of guided prompts, mapping exercises and reflection pages, organised into six sections: Scapegoat-System-Map-Workbook-H…

The system you grew up inside
Unwritten rules about emotions, truth, image and blame, plus “silent observer” exercises that focus on behaviour and tension, not excuses.
Cast of characters and power map
A cast list of family and authority figures, power ratings for “power in the family” and “power over me”, and a blame and belief map showing whose version always won.
The 10 Scapegoat Rules in your life
A quick scan and rating of all 10 rules, then pages for each rule: how it worked then, who enforced it, who benefited, and how it runs your life now.
Your top three system hooks
Choose the three rules that bite hardest now, give each hook a voice and a threat, and map where they show up in work, relationships, parenting and self-talk.
Experiments and pattern testing
Plan small experiments where you respond differently, write your predictions and fears, then compare them with what actually happens in real life.
Your “I was never the problem” brief
Guided sentence stems to pull your evidence together into a one-page internal verdict you can screenshot, print or keep somewhere private, plus a doubt protocol for when your brain tries to rewrite the story.

Who this workbook is for

This is for you if:

You grew up being treated as “the problem”, even when you were reacting to obvious harm
You carry constant guilt and second-guess yourself, even when you know you’ve done nothing wrong
You swing between “maybe it was abuse” and “maybe it wasn’t that bad”
You still feel twelve when certain people text, call or walk into the room
You don’t want more quotes – you want a concrete map and your own evidence

This workbook isn’t for you if you want positive affirmations, “forgive and forget” advice, or therapy in a PDF.

How it works

Format
You get a PDF download straight after checkout. You can print it or use it on a tablet or computer. A fillable version is coming in a later update and you’ll get that free when it’s ready.

Pace
This isn’t meant to be smashed out in a weekend. Work through it in chunks. When it gets heavy, put it down and come back when your body’s ready.

Alongside therapy
A lot of people use this alongside therapy or coaching. It gives structure and language. It doesn’t replace personal support, crisis care or legal advice.

Note

This workbook is educational and reflective. It’s designed for personal use only and isn’t therapy, diagnosis, legal guidance or crisis support. Scapegoat-System-Map-Workbook-H…