LOVE OR TRAUMA BOND? — Emotional Rewiring, Ep 6

12 May

When chaos feels like love… and peace feels like something’s missing

You meet someone.
You’re hooked. Obsessed. On edge when they’re gone.
But the more they hurt you, the more you crave them.

That’s not chemistry.
That’s a trauma bond.

In this episode, we break down how your nervous system mistakes danger for depth—and how to finally stop calling pain “love.”

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Key Takeaways

A trauma bond is not love—it’s a chemical survival loop.
If kindness makes you panic and distance feels like safety, you're likely stuck in a pattern your body calls “home.”
Most trauma bonds begin in childhood: inconsistent parenting, emotional manipulation, hot-cold dynamics.
You feel unsafe but can’t leave? That’s not love. That’s your nervous system doing its job… just a little too well.

Real Talk: The Highs Aren’t Love—They’re Withdrawal Relief

When you’re trauma bonded:

You crave them when they’re gone.
You flinch when they’re kind.
You feel “hooked” to chaos… and bored by calm.

It’s not emotional weakness. It’s biochemistry.
Cortisol, adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin—your body is spiking and crashing like it's on an emotional rollercoaster.